NB: here's a recorded version for part three for those who would like to listen along! Making mercy through reflexivity By the time we arrive at Part 3, we have looked at regret, hindsight, and the limits that show up in love. But recognising these things does not automatically make us kinder to ourselves or … Continue reading Snapshots, Not Verdicts (Part 3)
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Snapshots, not verdits; Part 2
Loving as limited people Nb: As a special treat and for those following along, here's part 2 recorded by yours truly: In Part 1, we explored snapshots as a way of thinking about regret: a way of looking back at moments without turning them into permanent verdicts. But relationships are not snapshots. They are living, … Continue reading Snapshots, not verdits; Part 2
Snapshots, not Verdicts. Part 1
Regret and the violence of hindsight. N.B: As a special treat, below is a recording of me reading the below piece if you prefer audio. Enjoy! Regret has a way of sneaking up on us, disguised as wisdom.It tells us that if we had known then what we know now, we would have chosen differently. … Continue reading Snapshots, not Verdicts. Part 1
The Seduction of Choice: Why life is more than the choices you make
A contemporary definition of freedom is the power to choose what we want to do. The more options, the more autonomy. Our societal interpretations are built on this premise: agency vs. structure. We champion and idolise the idea that agency is the highest good, the mark of a valid and flourishing life. Jobs we choose, … Continue reading The Seduction of Choice: Why life is more than the choices you make
On grief, grown up: The power of triangulating our story
It's the second week of May. This time of the year is always heavy with sentimentality; It's our wedding anniversary, it's mothers day, and it's also the anniversary when dad died. Lots of intersecting emotions all in the same few days. So here I am again, thinking about them, once again. Maybe, hopefully, another story … Continue reading On grief, grown up: The power of triangulating our story
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